Psychic Predicts Trouble Ahead – Confusion of Mind and Spirit
I admit I’ve seen the odd psychic. Mostly I’ve been unimpressed. I guess it’s because I’m only interested in information I can actually use and I despise speculation. But enough about me and my little foibles.
My friend (who shall go unnamed) fell in love a few years ago with someone whom she had met on the internet. A few months into the relationship (he was in another country) she noticed he spoke to her differently almost like he didn’t care. When she asked him why he revealed he was dying. Surprisingly, he didn’t ask for money.
Her reaction to his revelation was startling to watch. I’m pretty skeptical when it comes to the world of online dating. Dr Phil might change his mind about it if he had to see the carnage it can do. Between calling me up and asking my opinion she also consulted telephone psychics. Because I’m me, I told here he might not even exist. BIG MISTAKE.
Relentlessly she offered “proof” of his existence and rhetorical questions I had to clamp my lips not to answer anyway. My statement spoken in logical innocence – romance has no place for that by the way – caused her to doubt herself and the perception of the world. Because she was on the lookout for proof she called a psychic (a service for the purposes of entertainment only) to reinforce her world view and make things seem OK again.
It got even worse. Because she wasn’t convinced by the first psychic, she had to ring a second. And because the second contradicted the first…… anyhoo, just over three thousand NZ Dollars worth of phone bill later (from memory it took place over one month) and some more on her credit cards she should consider herself *!&%$ entertained. Next time she has boyfriend trouble I’ll suggest a trip to Vegas, there’s a better chance of a winning result.
Lets take a moment to consider how most consultations play out and the effects on our mind and spirit.
1) The payment. Lets unpack some presuppositions here. Paying anyone anything presupposes the expectation of a service, which would presuppose the expectation of a skill. It also sets a psychic up as an authority or it reinforces the authority they have conveyed through tv, radio or word of mouth.
2) Value the client places on what is said. We’ve already pointed out the perceived authority. So when the information is delivered it really packs a punch. The client is also on the lookout for certain information. They are primed.
3) The delivery of information. Advice and information is stated as if it were true.
4) Lack of supporting evidence. Since this is classed as an entertainment service, and since there is often no one around to really question the information provided (yeah I’m not including the client in this) the client is left with the thought….but what if it’s true?….or something similar. They may attempt to disprove something they heard that they instinctively know is incorrect.
Hopefully awareness is the beginning of a greater wisdom. Of course, some of my best friends are psychic in some form. It isn’t always a bad thing to seek guidance. The trick in business, and in life is knowing who to seek it from.
Blessings,
Wow! Got a little messy!
How did you manage to stay at arms length emotionally?
Mr. P
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
This is so true. Make sure the person giving you advice has a proven track record
Jose Escalante
http://www.JoseEscalante.com
I don’t believe in psychics. They are a scam in my opinion.
But if they say there is trouble ahead they are probably right.
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
As a hobby, I practice and study Cold Reading, which I continue to find fascinating. Once you know how it’s done it’s like discovering the man behind the curtain. A little of the magic wears off and you begin to see the world through a jaundiced eye. People need comfort and hope more than they need the truth.
I was sitting next to a woman on an airplane and she was telling me about a psychic reading she had recently. As she described what the psychic told her I started deconstructing the reading, pointing out all the generalities and cold reading tricks. No matter what I said she would counter on how the reader would never have known some of the stuff unless they were genuine. I decided to let her go on with her illusion since 1) she wanted to believe and wasn’t going to listen to me anyway and 2) it was a long flight and I didn’t want to sour the relationship.
This is good stuff.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Training Expert
“Compelling reason will never convince blinding emotion” – Richard Bach
You can convince yourself of anything if you ignore the facts!
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Sometimes being analytical isn’t all bad. I need facts before I act.
Robert Martin
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First, this is will written for me. I read and enjoyed the conversational manner and you asides. Women do this very well. You’ve got so much going on up there all the time. The last bit of advise was hard learned by me.
Keri,
Over all the years, I think I had about 4-5 “psychic readings”. I’m not that impressed. It’s not quite good enough to be classified as entertaining.
The best is that they are good mind readers.
The last one done was on my wife by the “Victorian Psychic of The Year (2008)” (Victoria is one of the 6 States in Australia).
That psychic was accusing me right from the beginning after spooting my skpetical look at the entrance, saying that I was arrogant and looked down on him without me saying a word.
Well, he might be great at body language like Kevin Hogan
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OR
Great at picking up non-verbal signals from my wife
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OR
Good at making a dramatic theatrical performance.
At a deeper level, I was not impressed with his “predictions”, which funny enough I secretly wished it would be true as it “solved” all my $ worries!
My intuitive wife insisted that not only she bought one tailsman from this psychic, I had to have one too. I think it set us back A$100 per piece on top of the reading. This Egyptian psychic claimed he inherited or could access the power of his psychic grandmother. A plausible lineage.
Well, I believe in the power of chanting any time more than the power of today’s “psychic”.
But mind you, I do believe in psychic power per se. But it’s so rare that 99.99% of who claims to have psychic powers are simply gimmicks and cheap entertainment.
That’s why I love to use PURE Numerology which does NOT invovle ANY psychic power to dissect a personality out of his/her birthdate.
Speaking of cold reading, Derren Brown’s latest trick on picking the right Lottery Numbers might be impressive, but his explanation itslef is not.
John Ho
Numerology Expert Birthday Numeroscope
As to cold reading
Very true… I have never been to a pyshic… I have thought about though…
http://www.salesjunkie.net
Hi Keri,
oh my goodness!
two things, the psychic. Yes, she was in a weakened state. In a stage of grief, as a matter of fact. And she walked into it with her own eyes. However, her heart was bleeding.
vet your experts. Look for excellent WOM from people you know and trust.
OK, that said.
Online Dating. People date a lot through it, build great dating and relationships skills, and have happily married people they have met via internet dating sites as well as those whom they met through other tactics.
However, they MET.
Am I correct in understanding that this is a long distance internet-only “relationship?” That they have not met? Or if they have, that their meeting was only brief? Not an in-person relationship of months and months of normal life (grocery shopping, doing laundry, cleaning the toilets) shared together?
If that is the case, and this is NOT uncommon and I do warn against it in my 3-5 emails on and then MEET or El-Chucko rule. If you don’t MEET and have extensive in-person contact it is all a FANTASY. Conjecture. And our brain fills in what we don’t know about someone (hence the fallibility of eye-witness testimony) and we create a Fantasy, 97% constructed with our Ideal. Not Reason. However, if you have never been married before, it is often even WORSE. Because those singles will most often CLING to the illusion of the fantasy relationship because they have not yet experienced true REAL LOVE. REAL LOVE includes dirty diapers, colds and fevers, cleaning the potty, CHOOSING to love. Not just the whimsical feeling sentiment of love.
Reality is really much better. That is where LIFE and living occurs.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Single Baby Boomer Dating Success Expert
Hi April, No they never met. She should heed the advice on your site! Totally agree if you don’t meet this is all just a fantasy. Like your El-Chucko rule lol. Great comment.
Keri Eagan
Yeah the suggestive sales are a good little earner I’m sure. I saw Derren Brown’s latest which I enjoyed. Suprising the number of people who think he has a gift who insist on seeing him as a psychic and not a mentalist. A bit like children at a magic show… somehow this seems to mark another point in human evolution.
Keri Eagan
Not very well. Basically I spent ages trying to reason with her. Every trick in the book… when someone is confused like this I think change can only come from deciding what the next part of your destiny will be. In other words, when you don’t know what is happening control what you can.
Keri Eagan
Keri
Sounds like she wanted to hear what she wanted to believe. Dealing with a pyschic on the phone can be very convincing. Glad you are there for her.
Terry
http://www.terrytom.com
The mind can be convinced of anything. It is a persons belief system. What is true for one is not necessarily true for another.
Vicki http://www.bridalthreadshq.com
I think it is all a big trick, but I went to a tea leaf reader one time who accurately predicted me meeting my husband. Very strange coincidence.
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Tips, Babysitting Services – Babysitters, Nannies, and Au-pairs
Keri,
That was informative — it taught a great lesson about being careful who we accept as authority figures and from whom we accept advice — and the post was entertaining. Hope your friend comes out of this experience stronger (emotionally) and wiser.
Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace
I like the new style! Clean, quick, good. What a sad thing for your friend. It is even harder to deal with now that she/he knows?
It is amazing who we give authority. I may start wearing a lab coat,
Pushing companies from good to great, Kate
You remained remarkably supportive. I’ve done some silly things in the name of love, but none that I regret.
Healthy Living, Katie